Why finding love is so hard

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This article was originally published on Single Life. By Jenn Chan and Corinne Sullivan. Updated: July 1, Originally Published: Sep. By Amanda Chatel. By Sarah Burke. Search Search for:. About Contact Privacy Policy. Facebook Instagram Pinterest. Single AF. Share this article now! It can also be beneficial to explore these feelings with the help of a therapist or counselor. Bringing these beliefs and associated feelings into conscious awareness and practicing affirmations that counteract these beliefs can be a key step in deprogramming these beliefs.

Put another way: "Know your value! Nor should you expect someone to change for you. Bernstein says to remember that while people can sometimes surprise us, generally what you see is what you get. None of this is to say that you should have an exhaustive list of must-haves in a potential mate. In fact, being open to people you might not consider "your type" could lead to more success than not, especially if you have a history of choosing the wrong partners.

Zarrabi warns against discounting someone if you don't feel an immediate spark—especially if that spark has led you down the wrong road in the past. Sometimes the best match might be the one you least expect. From a young age, we're taught by movies, books, and the likes that love will find us—it will just fall out of the sky and we'll know when it's right. And as lovely as that sounds, it's not true for most of us.

Finding love takes real work.